- On April 25, 2019
A last-minute opportunity to nab a couple of the long sold out tickets to Kenny Chesney came up. While not a close follower of his music, I thought—it’s a beautiful spring night, at a venue I haven’t been to before, and I know I’ll be totally refreshed by fan energy.
Well, consider me a convert to No Shoes Nation! Kenny gives it his all in every song. Two+ hours continuous, running back and forth on the stage shaking hands, sweat drenched, singing his heart out. So much exuberance and energy.
At the end of each song, he crossed his hands over his heart and looked with awe and appreciation at the cheering audience, like he was pulling in all that energy and love to fuel him for his next round. I have seen performers who enjoy their craft, but this guy was one with the audience. A picture of “blissful joy!” I left the concert infused with positive energy, a smile on my face that lasted well into the next day.
It was obvious that singing for a crowd “sparks joy” (to borrow from tidy-upper Marie Kondo) and in turn, the crowd shares in it.
The impact of this performance got me thinking — Does what I do spark joy for me? Does it inspire positive energy, like the energy resonance I felt at Kenny’s concert?
If you’ve watched the Netflix show Tidying Up or read Kondo’s bestselling book, you probably have spent time deciding if this shirt or that pair of pants “sparks joy.” Gaining control of clutter is an important part of creating more openness and energy to our life.
What about ‘sparking joy’ from our work? Our influence on others? I certainly witnessed it at this concert. Am I finding it in my life? That question takes a little more contemplation than choosing to donate the Jones of NY dress I’ve always loved and really doesn’t fit my lifestyle anymore.
In coaching. I am generally exploring some aspect of a client’s life that is not sparking joy for them. Maybe long held patterns of behavior or beliefs that may no longer serve in moving towards how or where they want to be. This is tough self-reflection and isn’t going to be fixed with a rousing song and dance.
Yet, when a client can reach way in, deep down. Begin to recognize the good, the bad, and the ugly. Then start to choose a different conscious and considered response. That is where the spark of joy begins to shine.
Their body position lifts and opens.
They are looking forward and around, not closing in.
Possibilities that were always available, but hidden, suddenly become accessible.
A smile and soft eyes replaces the frown and furrowed brow.
When that first tiny bit of realization comes through–THAT sparks joy for me. It feels like a cosmic message that I am where I am supposed to be.
And sometimes after a session is over, I clasp my hands to my heart, look around in awe, and feel the energy of their new beginning infuse me with joy.
Maybe you feel you are in a soul-sucking job right now. I hope not but I know that is how it can feel sometimes. No joy to be had.
Is there a tiny spark you can hold out for hope?
Or somewhere else in your life that holds promise?
Is there energy from someone else you can draw on?
Or a kindness, compassion, ‘gift of you’ that you can share with someone else?
What would make you clasp your hands to your heart,
look around in awe,
and feel the delicious spark of joy?
Photo: © 2015, JMaliszewski, “Sparklers”