- On February 14, 2019
What do I love about me?
That’s the question we were asked to envision for our morning yoga practice.
As I laid there on the mat, with my arms wrapped around my torso like I’m giving myself a big hug (a great stretch to warm up the thoracic spine), not a darn thing came to mind. I can easily come up with many ways I appreciate and love how others are, what others do, but for myself I am drawing a blank.
The stuff that came flooding into my mind instead were all the physical things I would like to change: hair, eyes, weight, shape…shall I go on?
Interesting that my first thoughts go to physical appearance. Our culture’s pervasive emphasis on first impressions, right?
My mind, whose default is always to be on alert for what’s not right, immediately took me hurtling down a path of what’s not good enough. Into a tangle of negative energy, instead of up a path towards appreciation and acceptance. I logically know physical appearance is the least of what matters, yet that’s what my mind brought up in living color first.
What really matters is how I make a positive difference in this world. My own courage and perseverance. How I make people feel. The kindness I can give. It is the connection, the empathy, the uplifting, the striving, the laughter, the joy.
The people that make the effort to see past the ‘wrapping paper’ of the physical outside, they get it.
So… What do I love about me?
- I love the sense of peace that infuses me when I can help others discover and live their magnificent potential.
- I love my thirst for a challenge, uniqueness, and independence.
- I love my deep commitment to make a difference in our world.
- I love my unquenchable desire to learn and grow.
- I love my strong powerful (and scarred) legs, back, and shoulders giving me strength for the long haul, climbing Kilimanjaro and Patagonia, completing three marathons, bicycling the GAP and the Camino.
- I even love my perfectionist gremlin, although I keep her on a short leash as she can get totally out of control. My perfectionist drives me to seek more information, to be accurate, to do my best.
This is the stuff that’s important and that you can’t easily see. This is the stuff under the outside wrapping of too-fine too-straight hair, too small eyes, and a few extra pounds settling in awkward places.
If I want to love me… if you want to love me… I’m so much more than what you can see. I am willing to share what you can’t easily see if you are willing to be witness for how I bring it to the world. That’s love.
What do you love about YOU?
What’s the first thing that popped into your mind?
What do you love about you that you wish others would love about you too?