- On August 23, 2018
I had become immune to the drip.
For a while, the sprayer function on my kitchen faucet hasn’t worked.
Then an annoying tiny spurt of water from the corner of the downspout.
And then…water dripping down the neck and pooling at the base. I started keeping a rag near the counter, so I could wipe up the puddle after each time I turned the kitchen faucet on.
Annoying, yes. Oh well. Something I learned to live with.
I was away on a trip and when I returned my husband had surprised me and installed a new kitchen faucet. I forgot what it was like to have a faucet that had power, with all the water going in the same direction!
Why did I hold on to something that wasn’t really working well for so long?
When we first notice something not working well, we must make a conscious effort to deal with it. Avoidance, work arounds, tolerance. Over time that becomes the ‘new normal.’ We don’t notice the drip anymore.
I see it in some of my clients, holding on to something that is not working for them. They know it’s not ideal. They’ve adjusted. They’ve made it work.
They’ve forgotten how much better it could be.
Ann was good at her job however there was no energy in her voice when she talked about it. After exploring her values and her strengths, it became evident that neither was being honored where she was currently working.
Ann had spoken to her employer about her desire to take on more responsibility, had proposed new ideas to expand business. There was always a reason why they couldn’t act. The benefits were decent. She liked some of the people she worked with. It was an easy commute.
So, she stayed. And the energy slowly dripped out of her. Getting through the routine at work became the new normal.
Ann, what if you had a new faucet? What would that look like?
She described something where she would have more creative independence, flexibility, responsibility to implement more efficient ways of working, ownership of something important and meaningful.
That’s just a dream, she said skeptically. There are no jobs out there like that for me.
How do you know until you try? You don’t have to take it. At least gather some data so you know whether it is a dream or not.
Two interviews and one job offer later, Ann had a big decision to make. Her initial thought was to turn it down and stay put. It didn’t offer everything she had put on her wish list.
Before you decide, are you willing to look at what else you can do beside turn it down?
Ok, but I have a sure thing where I’m at. I guess this is such a big decision, I should really see if there are other options besides just saying No.
What if you tell them everything you really want? Maybe they have some wiggle room. You really have nothing to lose since you’ve already got it in your mind to stay where you are.
How would you feel if you chose to turn it down knowing clearly that they couldn’t meet your requirements? How would you feel if you said No and had no idea if they would be flexible or not because you never told them what you really wanted?
Guess what? They were willing to give Ann everything she asked for and she is now in a place that fully engages her strengths.
I had forgotten how good it feels to be challenged and valued! What was I thinking to stay in a place where I was so bored?
What drip have you become immune to in your life?
What do you need to do to fix it?