- On January 13, 2015
A few days ago, we were ‘drilling’ a colleague in prep for a big interview with a highly regarded consulting firm. Case studies, pricing, market share. It reminded me of cramming for final exams.
He was obviously stressing over his ability to immediately recall the right answers on demand. I could see he was spinning down into the vortex of anxiety, fear, and desperation. Like a kamikaze pilot with no way to pull out of the final dive. When you are in this “below the line” state, everything seems like it is closing in on you.
Prescription: Charlie, calm down. You know this stuff. Breathe. It’s not about the answers, it’s about you and your dynamic personality. Give yourself space to shine. You can only be you. That’s the absolute best you can do.
Much easier to see the “illness” in others than to swallow my own medicine.
I was called for an interview two days later. It’s for a small project but one I’d really like to be in involved in. I pulled out my resources to cram in everything I could possibly be asked. I started stressing whether I was good enough. I could feel the vortex of the deep dive sucking me in. The cortisol and adrenalin creating a caged tiger sense of self-preservation.
Prescription: Jane, stop. You know this. Breathe deeply. Open your mind to listen. Give space for your wisdom to bubble up. Bring what you know and who you are. If that’s not what they are looking for, then that job wasn’t right for you anyway.
What situations cause you to go into the deep dive, when your anxiety and stress plummets you down, closing out opportunities to think broadly?
How good are you at pulling yourself up, opening your mind to possibilities and moving into courage and engagement?